Be A Dandelion

When I was a little girl, I would see these pretty little flowers scattered all over the place. I learned that there were called dandelions. What a cute name, I thought.  I later learned that Dandelions were weeds and that people didn't want weeds in their gardens. People would have a very hard time trying to get rid of these dandelions because the roots were very strong and they ran deep into the earth. The only way that a dandelion can be destroyed is if the roots (its connection to the earth) is destroyed.

I would like to think that people are like dandelions. We are beautiful creations that are put on this earth to live. We may encounter people in our lives who don't find us appealing and may, in turn, want to destroy us. They attack us superficially. They try to convince us that there is something wrong with us. They try to convince us that we are ugly, unwanted weeds.

When we continue to thrive and succeed, they wonder how it is that we do what we do and start to question our values and principles. "She got the promotion because she is sleeping with her boss", "He probably stole that watch from somebody else".  What these people begin to realize is that we, like dandelions, have strong roots. That is why they feel the need to attack us on a deeper level. They make us question our relationships and the things that we believe in. 

{Roots are a dandelion's connection to the earth. Relationships (to our families, our friends, ourselves, and our beliefs) are our connections to the Earth.  I've learned that a relationship is proof that we are living.  If I was the only thing in existence, how would I know that I existed? I would know that I am alive because there is something or someone else to relate to.}

Every living thing in existence has the same goals, "be, grow and multiply". What we humans refuse to understand is that things really are as simple as that.  Our roots (relationships) help us to achieve those goals. The people who put us down are afraid to be seen as ugly ol' weeds so instead of boosting themselves up to feel like beautiful flowers, they convince everyone around them that they are ugly ol' weeds as well.  They are weakening the relatinships that they have with us by trying to weaken our relationships with others.  While trying to destroy us, they are, in turn, destroying themselves.

Not only do you empower your self, but you empower others when you keep your roots strong.

Honest, Trustworthy and Passionate is the new Tall, Dark and Handsome

So I'm learning about understanding the difference between standards/ ideals and values/principles.  When it comes to the people in my life and my relationships with them (especially the relationships that aren't working), I see how much I hold them to these impossible standards. It's totally unfair to them and totally unrealistic of me. I also see that if something is missing in a relationship, I have to step up and make that change. It is almost certain that the thing that is missing is the major reason why the relationship isn't working.

How did you select the people in your life? Did you say that you wanted smart, good looking friends or did you ask for supportive and trustworthy friends? Did you get what you asked for? Are you happy with what you got? Is there something missing? Do you value your friendship enough to step up to the plate and provide the missing piece? This goes for family and coworkers too.

Before you can have people in your life who embody your values and principles, you would have to embody your values and principles.

Who likes random? I do, I do!

Have you ever thought about something that was totally hilarious and burst out with laughter and had the people around you look at you funny?

Don't you hate it when you are lost in thought and some one asks you what you are thinking about. You finally tell that person after a couple minutes of ridiculous begging, that person responds with, "Oh" like you just wasted that person's time?

Why is it that your friends are busy trying to get you in a relationship and the minute you're in one, they are the first ones to tell you that the person you are with is scum?

My views on music- A song is rather fast paced, danceable, upbeat, contains a catchy tune, contains lyrics about falling in love or having fun with friends, but when a black person sings it, it's called R&B; when a white person sings it, it's called Pop.
A song is too fast paced to be danceable, angry at times and raunchy at times, the lyrics aren't sung but are spoken or screamed in a way that makes the words completely indecipherable, music videos contain women in bikinis. If the song was done by a black person, it's Rap; if it was done by a whit person, it's Rock and Roll.
A song is rather slow and soulful, big emphasis on the instrumentals, lyrics are either depressing or sensual, singer has an interesting voice. Black person, Soul or Blues; white person, Emo or Indie.

We're all singing the same stuff the same way so why does there have to be different classifications?

Alrighty, I think that is all I have for today.